Well, this is going to be the first of many check-ins I will do. Aside from training subs I also have the honor to teach you DOMS the ropes. (Didn’t realize the pun.) I have taken theories and some rituals that I like and teach the younger ones how is it done and remind them that they have to be consistent.
So I happen to find out about this younger DOM that I work with. We start discussing how long he has he been a DOM? What has he learned about the lifestyle and how long he has been with this sub. I get to talk to him about safewords, he has them for his sub but not for himself. That made me think for a little I know I can be all powerful and at the moment but there is a limit. There is a thing called being “Overpowered” this when you are so deep into your Dominance that you are not seeing clearly. Yes, your sub is in subspace and floating above the clouds in bliss, nevertheless, you have to know where the limit is before you break your sub so much that it becomes unsafe. That her red bottom becomes purple and the deep bruising is beginning to ozze out blood. There is a limit and you have to understand that as a DOM you have to be in control of everything. Once you take ownership that is your responsibility if you break it, you fix it and repair it to be better.
There are always exceptions to the rules once they have been doing it for a while. You push the limits, that is what everyone to do, but within reason. To further one’s limits is always the goal. You have to work up to that limit, not 0-100 and you only have had your sub for 2 weeks. You must know yourself as well. Their days where you need to take a step back and look at what direction you are going. I don’t care if you use SSC(Safe, Sane, Consensual)or RACK(Risk-aware, Consensual, Kink) or even B.E.S.T(Behavior, Emotions, Self-image, Thoughts). Just don’t wing and think she will be fine and you will be fine. There are guidelines out there for a reason to find some and use them.
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